Loss

Loss is a very powerful word and it’s meaning is a hundred fold. You can lose a child, like I did, which has put me onto this path of healing and helping. You can experience loss through the loss of a spouse whether in a divorce or through their physical passing into the non-physical realm. You could be the child that was abused, whether physically, sexually, verbally, etc. and that is the loss of innocence.

We all, each and every one of us, have suffered a loss in our lives. Some are worse than others, but nevertheless, it is a loss and we can feel that loss deeply. Some of us go through the rest of our lives keeping this abuse/loss to ourselves. We want to keep it private and that is fine as long as it doesn’t interrupt or intrude on your well being or life’s path.

We are here, at this time on this earth, for a specific reason. One of those reasons is to spread God’s love throughout this troubled (sometimes I feel like it’s crumbling) world. We can’t do that if we are holding secrets, that can help others, inside of us.

Like I said previously, I lost a child because he abused drugs. I spent these last few years living in my own kind of hell. I have, on many occasions, had connections and conversations with my son Walt in spirit. He has helped me to realize that he was destined to leave this physical world at a young age so that I could get on with my life’s purpose.

To say that his loss was hard is absurd, it’s like saying a snow flake weighs 3,000 pounds. And yes, I know that God does not give us more than we can handle. We are strong, powerful spiritual beings inhabiting our physical bodies. When it comes down to it, we can actually do many things that we never thought we could. Prayer went a long way in helping me to keep my sanity, I didn’t think I could go on and live my life without my son, but prayer was what gave me the courage to do so.

I have always prayed that God would never take one of my children away from me. I just knew I couldn’t live with that hurt, but here I am and I have learned so very much from my experience of losing My Dragonfly Walt. In the end, I had two choices. I could be Bitter or I could be Better. I chose better because that is the only way to go.

If you are suffering from a loss, any loss, please contact me. I can help you to learn to live with the loss, because some losses we never get over, we learn to live with them. Visit my website, allthingsmystic.net and download a free gift I have for you. This blog post is the third in a series of six, so stay tuned.

Take care. I’ll talk to you soon.

The Day of the Dead

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Dia de los Muertos, “Day of the Dead,” a Spanish celebration honoring the dead, is a Mexican holiday. It is celebrated, especially in the Central and South regions of Mexico. It’s a ritual that the Spanish have been practicing for at least 3,000 years. The day of the dead is also celebrated in certain parts of the United States.

The tradition was originated in Mexico and is celebrated on November 1. The festivities start on October 31st. Family members decorate the graves of their loved ones, often creating small, personal altars honoring the person. Sugar skulls, a skull made out of clay molded sugar and decorated with feathers and colored beads, are used to decorate the gravestones of the deceased. It’s a loving ritual filled with joy and love.

It is believed that, if a spirit returns and finds that no one has built an altar for them, they will feel sad and angry. Those neglected spirits may seek revenge on those who have forgotten them. Also, many folk tales explain how those who ignored their deceased loved ones will be struck ill immediately and die shortly after the holiday. Thus, some people take part in the festivities out of fear or superstition rather than love.

The most popular ways of celebrating Dia de los Muertos is by:

• Telling stories about the deceased loved one

• Creating an altar with offerings such as symbols and object of importance to the deceased.

• Cleaning and decorating their grave

• Holding all night vigils at the gravesite

• Making sugar skulls

So, basically, celebrating the “Day of the Dead” is nothing more than honoring dead relatives, both young and old and allowing them to return to the mortal world to visit loved ones. Instead of scary ghosts and goblins, the people of Mexico welcome their family spirits with the aroma of delicious food, decorated candy skulls and lighted candles to guide them home again.

This practice is new to me. I’ve never heard of it before, but I’m glad I happened across an article explaining the custom. In my opinion, it is a beautiful way to celebrate and honor a deceased family member, and a wonderful way to let that family member know how much they are appreciated, loved and missed.